How do I approach coaching and life? — tl;dr
- I coach ADHD brains using a blend of science, humor, structure, and play—so growth feels doable, not overwhelming.
- I combine neuroscience, CBT-style tools, executive-function strategies, and somatic/emotional regulation to help you build real, lasting change.
- I don’t force neurotypical systems onto neurodivergent people—I tailor strategies to your wiring, goals, and season of life.
- I’m equal parts serious (because ADHD affects everything) and silly (because joy and play make change sustainable).
- Together, we create practical routines, emotional tools, and communication skills that turn ADHD from daily friction into forward momentum.
My Approach
Living with ADHD has shaped every chapter of my life—from government research labs to academia to Silicon Valley, where I built a career as a mathematician and data scientist. For decades, I brute-forced my way through time blindness, emotional intensity, executive-function chaos, and the strange tension of being both highly intelligent and chronically overwhelmed. I learned early that ADHD isn’t simply a diagnostic label. It’s a way of experiencing the world—with its own rhythms, blind spots, creativity, friction, and deep potential.
Like a lot of people with ADHD, I reached a point in my mid-thirties where I realized: other people aren’t struggling like this. They’re not constantly feeling misunderstood. They’re not repairing social misfires or miscommunications weekly. They’re not fighting their own brain to feel connected. That realization sent me into seven years of traditional talk therapy—psychodynamic psychotherapy—trying to understand why my inner world felt louder, harder, and more reactive than the people around me.
Talk therapy was meaningful and healing in many ways. It helped me understand my emotional patterns, my history, and the “why” behind so much of what I felt. But eventually I hit a wall: I was painfully aware of my triggers, my tendencies, my patterns… and yet awareness wasn’t moving me forward. I knew what needed to change, but talk therapy alone wasn’t helping me get ahead of the cycle.
In my early forties, I finally sought out support built for the ADHD mind. I worked with a CBT therapist specializing in ADHD, went through the diagnostic process, explored medications, and started executive-function coaching. That was the turning point. That’s where the biggest growth of my life happened—where things finally stopped feeling impossible and started becoming manageable, then sustainable, then exciting. It’s where I unlocked the kind of clarity, confidence, structure, emotional steadiness, and relational ease I never thought was available to me.
Now, I’m building on that evolution. I’ve spent years teaching college courses, mentoring junior scientists, guiding students, and coaching friends and family. I’ve trained leadership, communication, and problem-solving skills through multiple careers. And I’m combining all of that—my ADHD-specific tools, my scientific background, my therapy journey, my hard-won personal experience—into a coaching approach designed to help people with ADHD achieve the same transformation I did.
My coaching philosophy is simple: ADHD doesn’t need to be fixed. It needs to be understood, harnessed, and integrated. I don’t believe in forcing ADHD brains into neurotypical systems or overwhelming clients with giant toolkits. Instead, I help people experiment, play, get curious, and actually enjoy the process of reshaping their lives. I use humor, lightness, and a bit of whimsy—not to make the work shallow, but to make growth feel less heavy and more human.
Our work is serious because the stakes are real: your peace, your time, your relationships, your confidence. But seriousness doesn’t have to feel like punishment. It can feel like discovery, momentum, and alignment.
Because of my background in data and research, I bring an evidence-informed perspective to everything we explore. I’ve spent years studying ADHD science, executive function, neuroscience, and emotional regulation. I’ve also spent a great deal of time understanding ADHD medications—not to prescribe or replace medical care, but to offer grounded, stigma-free insight into their benefits and drawbacks. Many people fear “medicating their mind” while freely taking Tylenol or blood-pressure meds. I offer clarity, not judgment.
I don’t hand clients a menu of tools. I tailor every strategy to each person’s wiring, season of life, and goals. Together, we’ll build systems and habits that reduce friction, strengthen emotional resilience, improve communication patterns, and shift your life from reactive to intentional. Not toward perfection—toward ease, stability, and authentic direction.
I believe ADHD can become something powerful—not a “superpower” borrowed from someone else’s marketing, but a genuine source of originality, depth, intuition, and creative force. When you learn to steer with your wiring instead of against it, life stops being a constant uphill battle and starts becoming something you can build with confidence.
If any of this sounds like your lived experience, then you’re probably the kind of person I can help. And if you’re ready, I’d love to help you create a version of your life where ADHD isn’t the enemy—it’s part of the engine.
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